5 Motivational Tips for 30-Something Gals

You’ve finally turned thirty, oh joy! Here you are, lounging in your bedroom and binge-watching Netflix in your underwear, feeling pretty good about yourself. While your accomplishment of seeing five seasons of your favourite show in less than two days is, of course, incredible, you feel like it pales slightly in comparison with your friends who are all already married, have kids and successful careers. It’s fine to be lost while you’re a teenager or in your twenties, but turn thirty and everyone expects you to already have it all figured out. Couple that with the fear of growing old and you’re in for a wild ride of constant anxiety. Well, we’re here to soothe your mind a bit. Feeling a little uninspired and worried about your future? Then read on. 

Stop comparing yourself to others Seeing people your age becoming successful at life puts a certain kind of pressure on us. Why didn’t we get there yet? You have to realize that this pressure is mostly self-imposed and sometimes helped along by our parents who keep nagging about grandchildren. Your friends are great people, so instead of wasting time on envying them and harming yourself in the process, embrace their success and stop seeing it as evidence of your own failure. Do things at your own pace and do them to please yourself; don’t do stuff to please your parents or some society-imposed “ideal” of what your life is supposed to look like. 
Take care of your health  It’s time to put yourself first when it comes to health. Those days when you could wear six-inch heels, dance all night, drink eight rounds of tequila and then still wake up for work in the morning are done. Eat well, exercise and remember to wear sunscreen every day. It’s the best way to slow down aging better than any expensive moisturizer that you may buy.
 

Take a new approach to relationships You always seem to run into jerks who don’t respect you enough and don’t fulfil your needs. How come you have such terrible luck? Are there no good men left? There absolutely are, but you need to keep your expectations realistic, and not base your idea of what a relationship is supposed to look like on Hollywood movies. When you decide to start dating someone, go slow and learn how to relax. Don’t immediately think about commitment. Don’t dedicate every last shred of your time and personality to this new guy, don’t change to fit his interests and needs. It won’t get you anywhere, and you’ll just end up looking desperate. Do you want to learn how to be a good girlfriend? Then give him space, and give yourself space, too. Be there to support him, but don’t disregard your own needs. Enjoy your own hobbies, see your friends often. He’ll like that you can take care of yourself, but what’s more important – you’ll like it too.
Become more open-minded about sex Sex is pretty damn great, and your thirties are the perfect time to keep that in mind. Your gender shouldn’t prevent you from having fun and experimenting, so instead of being afraid you’ll come off as promiscuous, just chill. Go out and get kinky, learn what pleasures you, and then be vocal about it with your partners. 
 

Learn how to speak up Unfortunately, the world isn’t the nicest place most of the time, and if you don’t stand up for yourself, people will walk over you. Some will be kind, some will cherish you even if you’re frail, but most people will seek to abuse it. This doesn’t mean you need to stop being gentle and caring – quite the opposite. Learn how to speak your mind and fight for your beliefs. Don’t suffer injustices, because no one should be allowed to harass you, and don’t let people overlook your hard work because you were too quiet. Own your skills, own your power and don’t let anyone put you down. Simply – know your own worth. 
Turning thirty is meant to be some huge, dramatic event, but in truth, it’s a quiet thing that doesn’t hold more meaning than you give to it. Yes, you’re growing older, but that’s not a bad thing. It simply means that you can start calling your obsessive binge-watching a form of self-care, instead of laziness. 

Guest Post by: Peter Minkoff

Peter is a fashion stylist and a writer located in Brisbane, Australia. After graduating from Australian Institute of Creative Design,  he worked from many local fashion companies as a trend forecaster. Beside fashion, he loves traveling and roaming through vintage stores. He’s future plans are in creating his own styling business.

Thanks a lot for this article Peter!

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